Making changes to your life isn't easy. That, is a hard cold fact. But doing so, can have a profound effect on your personality, your health, and your bank account.
And, who doesn't want that?
If you want that to happen, certain steps need to take place.
First and foremost, no you aren't going to be moving into a tiny house (well not unless you really want to). You want to be comfortable. So, lets remain where we are, and look at some things that we might do that don't require selling everything we have and moving-simple things first.
Time: our time is in demand, from our kids, our boss, our spouse, and a gazillion other entities. It could be all those boards you chair, or that church group, or the music with mommies child's group you attend twice a week, the gym, or your 5 art classes one for every night of the week. Take a big step back and list all of the things that demand your time. Start a notebook to work your way through this process, and keep it, your going to need it.
Most likely your going to find that Work makes the top of the list, then family, after family we tend to lump everything together, as groups, friends because lets face it, you have a lot of friends in that church group, and a lot of friends on the boards you chair, and many, many friends at the gym, and in your art classes. And soon it all becomes a jumbled mess.
To start lets remove one thing from the entities that require our time, we can't remove work because we need the money, and we really love the music with mommies class, and the church group, and we have a set tenure before we can resign as chair of that board, certainly not family, so how about one of the art classes? Let's lose one. Lets say your taking a ceramics class, you knew early on that it was okay, but not your favorite form of art. But, you'd paid for the class so you didn't want to lose money.
Thinking that you'd be losing money is no way to look at it, what you would be gaining is time, time that could be better spent doing something you enjoy. So, you give up the class, step away from attending every week, and you suddenly find that you have 4 to 5 free evenings a month. A common mistake we make is that when we find that we have free time, we tend to want to fill it with something. DON'T SCHEDULE ANYTHING IN IT'S PLACE-YET.
You have just gained 4 to 5 free nights a month, add that over a year, and that is over a month of time that you have now freed up in each year of your life. 30+ days of not having to be anywhere or do anything -if you don't want too. Spend that time wisely, sit on the back porch and drink a cup of coffee, grill out with the family, go out with your spouse, play with the kids, go for a walk. Anything but structured activities. WHY? because structured activities are one of the things that causes our stress level to go up, it costs us money that would be better left in our bank account, and takes our time away from the REAL things, doing something for our self, like family, close friends, and your significant other. In a crazy week, we will soon find that we look forward to that night off, no matter what we do.
Using this process you can free up a ton of time in your life without really realizing it. And, you have focused that time on something you actually REALLY enjoy. When you finish that next art class, don't sign up for another one yet. Let that evening be another that you added to your list of free time, time to do things that make you relax and de-stress. Time enough to join another class when you've cleared your calendar.
You have just begun the journey to TAKE BACK YOUR TIME.