Making changes to your life isn't easy. That, is a hard cold fact. But doing so, can have a profound effect on your personality, your health, and your bank account.
And, who doesn't want that?
If you want that to happen, certain steps need to take place.
First and foremost, no you aren't going to be moving into a tiny house (well not unless you really want to). You want to be comfortable. So, lets remain where we are, and look at some things that we might do that don't require selling everything we have and moving-simple things first.
Time: our time is in demand, from our kids, our boss, our spouse, and a gazillion other entities. It could be all those boards you chair, or that church group, or the music with mommies child's group you attend twice a week, the gym, or your 5 art classes one for every night of the week. Take a big step back and list all of the things that demand your time. Start a notebook to work your way through this process, and keep it, your going to need it.
Most likely your going to find that Work makes the top of the list, then family, after family we tend to lump everything together, as groups, friends because lets face it, you have a lot of friends in that church group, and a lot of friends on the boards you chair, and many, many friends at the gym, and in your art classes. And soon it all becomes a jumbled mess.
To start lets remove one thing from the entities that require our time, we can't remove work because we need the money, and we really love the music with mommies class, and the church group, and we have a set tenure before we can resign as chair of that board, certainly not family, so how about one of the art classes? Let's lose one. Lets say your taking a ceramics class, you knew early on that it was okay, but not your favorite form of art. But, you'd paid for the class so you didn't want to lose money.
Thinking that you'd be losing money is no way to look at it, what you would be gaining is time, time that could be better spent doing something you enjoy. So, you give up the class, step away from attending every week, and you suddenly find that you have 4 to 5 free evenings a month. A common mistake we make is that when we find that we have free time, we tend to want to fill it with something. DON'T SCHEDULE ANYTHING IN IT'S PLACE-YET.
You have just gained 4 to 5 free nights a month, add that over a year, and that is over a month of time that you have now freed up in each year of your life. 30+ days of not having to be anywhere or do anything -if you don't want too. Spend that time wisely, sit on the back porch and drink a cup of coffee, grill out with the family, go out with your spouse, play with the kids, go for a walk. Anything but structured activities. WHY? because structured activities are one of the things that causes our stress level to go up, it costs us money that would be better left in our bank account, and takes our time away from the REAL things, doing something for our self, like family, close friends, and your significant other. In a crazy week, we will soon find that we look forward to that night off, no matter what we do.
Using this process you can free up a ton of time in your life without really realizing it. And, you have focused that time on something you actually REALLY enjoy. When you finish that next art class, don't sign up for another one yet. Let that evening be another that you added to your list of free time, time to do things that make you relax and de-stress. Time enough to join another class when you've cleared your calendar.
You have just begun the journey to TAKE BACK YOUR TIME.
If you remember seeing other blog post, that you now cannot find- this is why: This blog started out as a simple collection of thoughts, a creative outlet if you will, but it is slowly evolving into something much more important. As a result, things are changing a bit.
I come in contact with people all the time who are upset, grumpy, and often downright hostile. I know it is nothing that I have done, it is the current situation they have been forced to live in to accommodate a lifestyle of a particular type.
Yep, we know who WE are, and for a while, a long while actually, I lived that way. Stressed about everything, constantly working at a job I had no interest in, for a paycheck that was already spent. My down time was nill, a couple days or one at the end of the week and I was back at it again struggling to make ends meet.
It wasn't until I actually took a step back and started to analyze things that the constant search for more and more diminished.
Oh yes, we have all heard about the "tiny house movement, the declutter your life movement", but there is one take on the whole minimalism(and yes, that's what its all about) take, that has made a profound change in the way my household exists, and the way we, my husband and I live, and the amount of money we have. I cant say, we are there yet, but we are getting closer. Baby steps.
So, for the next year, these blog posts are going to be about precisely that, making changes in your life that will give you more time, energy, and more relaxation. We will be adding a product page, of great products that stand the tests of time, ideas for changing some of your day to day purchases for things that never wear out. How to minimize your cash layout without losing your normal day to day happiness.
How to destress, unwind, step away, and relax, and what that does to your life as a whole. Ways to take back your time will be our first post-read on
We all have things that make our morning great. For me, its coffee. It's not a specific coffee, it can be a cappuccino, or a latte from Starbucks. It can be instant out of a can, although I am particularly fond of Kona beans from Hawaii freshly ground, and perking away in the pot.
In reality, it's not really the coffee that makes the morning. It's the act of drinking coffee, and everything that surrounds it.
The thought of sitting down at the table, with a cup of coffee and my journal, and releasing all of those pent up frustrations, and worries out onto the paper. It's the smell of a fresh brew as it fills the house, mingling with morning air sifting in the open window. Combined, that creates the perfect ambience.
I grew up with coffee, not the parents drank coffee and rushed out the door to work type, but the type where people from the neighborhood wandered in and out of the house to sit and casually drink coffee and talk. My home was the coffee shop of our neighborhood.
In the cold winter, the scent of brewing coffee would wake us from beneath our warm blankets, and pull us toward the kitchen, and into the fresh new day.
But summer time coffee, it was the best.
I remember as a child I was about 8 or 9 maybe, and was allowed to partake of my Dad's special river camp coffee. It sat simmering in a great speckleware pot on the open fire of our campsite, bubbling merrily atop the huge iron grate where Mom was preparing breakfast of eggs and bacon in a massive skillet.
Holding the styrofoam cup in my little hands I blew the heat away dispersing the smell into the cool air of morning and the fog sifting off the river. When it was finally cool enough to taste, it burst like ambrosia in my mouth and opened a whole new world. As I sat watching the fog roll off the river, and the sun creep in through the trees, I imagined a life of drinking coffee from a speckleware pot while the morning sun rose over the river, and any worries I had drifted instantly away.
And now, that I'm grown, I pour my coffee in the morning, its inky blackness filling the cup, and I'm whisked away, back to that morning on the river. The peace, the sound of birds, the fresh air, the fog, and the sun sifting through the trees. That, is why I love coffee, it returns me to a place I loved, and a memory I will always cherish.